{"id":2264,"date":"2016-08-18T11:58:55","date_gmt":"2016-08-18T15:58:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/?page_id=2264"},"modified":"2026-02-16T00:55:00","modified_gmt":"2026-02-16T05:55:00","slug":"paying-attention-to-adults","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/paying-attention-to-adults\/","title":{"rendered":"Paying Attention To Adults"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Probably the single most important thing you want your toddler to learn is that adults are important, rewarding, and fun to interact with. You can tell when a&nbsp;child feels connected to adults. He will seek them out and smiles when he sees them. He will reach for them or go to them when he is happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote>\n<p>Spend as much time as possible interacting and engaging with your child to help him see that adults are fun, rewarding, and comforting.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><\/span>Also, when the child is&nbsp;frightened, sad, hungry, or hurting, he knows that adults can make him feel better. He finds adults comforting as well as fun. He will want to be with them when he is unhappy. Watch how this little boy runs to his own mother when he\u2019s hurt even though another adult is trying to make him feel better.<\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"1-Mom consoles 864x486\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/199047665?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div>\n<p>When children feel connected to adults and interested in them, they want the adults that are special to them to pay attention to them. Children enjoy showing things to adults and look forward to the adult\u2019s reaction. In the next clip, Jack, who\u2019s almost 2, wants to make sure his mother is watching him and says, \u201cLook at me, Mama!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"2-Look Mama 864x486\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/199047725?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div>\n<p>Most of the ideas in this module are ways to teach the child a set of skills during everyday activities or routines. A really important thing about this kind of teaching is that it increases the amount of time the child spends interacting with others. Teaching the child to pay attention to the important adults in his life is a good place to start.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div>\n<p>Paying attention means watching what the adult is doing. Notice that this little girl stays near the adults, playing and watching them.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"3-watching_adults_864x486 (540p)\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/1044415155?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even very small children pay attention to adults\u2019 feelings. Watch how the adult is pretending to be sad, and both children start to get upset.<\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"4-attention to adult 864x486\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/199047794?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>See how this little boy is looking right at the teacher\u2019s eyes? Here he is again, looking at a different adult.<\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"5-Looking at eyes 864x486\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/199047843?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the next clip, the teacher is pushing the child on the swing. Notice how each time the child looks away, the teacher stops the swing and waits for eye contact before giving him another push. As soon as he is paying attention to her, she pushes the swing. In this way, she is making eye contact work as the \u201con and off button\u201d for the fun!<\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Viggo-10 864x486\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/201766656?dnt=1&amp;app_id=122963\" width=\"864\" height=\"486\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; picture-in-picture; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To help your child want to interact more, spend as much time as you can doing interesting things with your child. Find ways to make him smile and laugh. And comfort him when he\u2019s sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\"><a href=\"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/eye-contact-with-adults\/\"><strong>Next: Eye Contact With Adults<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-summary\">\nProbably the single most important thing you want your toddler to learn is that adults are important, rewarding, and fun&hellip;\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/paying-attention-to-adults\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &ldquo;Paying Attention To Adults&rdquo;<\/span>&hellip;<\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":49,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-2264","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2264","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/49"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2264"}],"version-history":[{"count":22,"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2264\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10562,"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2264\/revisions\/10562"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parenttraining.chip.uconn.edu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2264"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}